Rule #1: Dealing with the Over Sweat-ers

What's an over sweat-er? Well I'll tell you.
I know we can all sweat the small things at times, but there is such a thing as an over sweat-er. Over sweat-ers are people who sweat over little things too much! There are two people who come to my mind when I think about truly sweating the small things, let's call them Bob and Grace.

Bob knows how to gripe, the guy is a bloody master of griping. He could out gripe your most annoying female colleague. Would you like to know what Bob gripes about? Bob gripes about how girls won't date him, how he can't properly kill himself, how life is so miserable, etc. Do you know why Bob gripes about these things? He's a drama queen, that's right, folks. He is a 150% total drama queen. If you talked to the guy, it's obvious he's not really a depressed person (like he isn't clinically having problems like you'd find in people who have serious mental issues), the guy just likes to cause drama in his wake.

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If you know a person like Bob, stay away from them. They are bad, bad with a capital B. People like Bob care about no one but themselves, and not in a normal fashion. One could say it is very much a form of narcissism. Avoid this sweat-er if at all possible, they only sweat the little things because they want you to pity them and become a part of their personal soap opera starring them.

Let's move on to Grace, Grace is an un-conscious type of sweat-er. She sweats the little things because she lacks the capacity to understand things beyond her bubble. Grace's favourite sweats are: being picked on by a good natured uncle, having a crush on a different boy every day, and not listening to any advice she is given. This is all due to the fact that Grace refuses to understand anything that is beyond her bubble. In her world, she actually knows everything. No matter how many understanding, compassionate, helpful people try to give her advice when she asks for it, she refuses to see any angle beside her own. I would go so far as to say that this is a lack of an open mind.

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I realise to some extent that we all tend to fall into this category at some point. The key to dealing with this person is ignoring them. If you have tried your best to be helpful and they have refused to receive the help that they asked for, there is nothing for you to do but to move on and ignore this person. Be kind and friendly, but do NOT attempt to help, merely sympathise with them and do not provide services beyond that